I am in a funk. Which can happen from too much pain, fatigue or just from a mood drop. We just get in a spot where we are tired of being tired. Tired of the pain. Tired of thinking about the pain. And it isn't a good cycle to get into. I used to think I should just ignore it, push through it, don't think about it... push, push, push. But then you just burn through your reserve of energy, burn right out and get sicker. No, we actually need to know when things are getting bad we actually need to take care of ourselves. We matter. Self-care matters.
We need some self-care STAT in a funk. I am an introvert and it reminds me a lot of when I *used* to go out to someplace really busy and hectic and it would make me just drained. All the excitement and the people. And I would need some serious downtime. Some alone time. Just me time. And chronic illness is a lot like being a super introvert. We have some serious reserves of energy and we need some serious down time. We also really need to take care of ourselves because it helps manage our mood. And our mood can take a real hit from the pain and stress.
So I narrow my focus when I am in a funk. To focus on things that will make me feel better in any way shape or form.
- Meditation: if I have skipped on my meditation I will make sure I Make the Time for it. Self-care is about making the time for ourselves. And meditation really clears my head of all that thinking about thinking. It de-stresses me a great deal. I know there are so many benefits listed for it but it just centers me and soothes me... and that is good enough. I choose mindful meditation that is guided, guided because then I don't get easily distracted. I also choose the ones based on breathing because I can really tune into my breathing such that I tune out all else. It is the only meditation that has worked for me. I tried others and they are just not a right fit, so sometimes we just have to find what relaxes us and what does not.
- Bath: Usually I have an Epsom salt bath, but I am out of salts, so a nice soothing hot bath will have to do. Ease all those FM aches that have been so prevalent of late. There are so many ways to make this more relaxing of course. My preference is just to chill with some music.
- Reading: One thing that never fails to relax me and de-stress me is just getting lost in a really good book for a few hours.
- Hobbies: Hobbies like coloring, video games, knitting and so many more... in my case writing fiction. (I suppose reading would be in here too but since I consider that to be practically a food group I put it separately). I will spend some quality time with me and my hobby as this just makes me feel good. Mood booster for sure.
- General self-care- I do things when I am in a funk like make sure I don't spend all day in my pjs. Because it makes me feel mentally better to get dressed for the day. It is a thing I learned for depression and motivation... preparing for the day. So I ensure I do it when I am in a bit of a funk to ensure I don't encourage any depressive habits. Like sleeping all day and other things that will make me feel bad. Part of my self-care is always mood maintenance. So I have things on my list like get up on time, get dressed, eat, write in my gratitude journal... things like that.
- Journalling- When I am feeling particularly unwell and feel like the pain is getting to me and my mood is suffering I make an extra effort to work on my mood journalling. In my previous post I expressed how my depression had me thinking some seriously negative thoughts. Well these need to be worked out on paper so I can logically work through them. It basically goes something like this: Put down the situation the thought occurred. The thought itself. Feelings that came with it. The type of cognitive distortion it is. (Magnification, disqualifying the positive, jumping to conclusions and so forth. I have a list, but these can be found on line or from your psychologist under cognitive therapy.) The more Realistic thought. And what the new feelings are now that you think about that new thought.
So self care for me means taking that time for myself to recharge and do things that I know will de-stress me. And doing things that are part of my health routine like meditation that I also know will help me relax.
It also means decreasing outside stress factors during this time. Saying no to other things in order to get that down time that I need. When we are flaring, really fatigued or our mood is suffering this is not the time to be active and pushing ourselves. We need to hunker down, rest and take some care.
It means as well not feeling guilty that instead of doing the laundry you are meditating. No guilt allowed! None! So you didn't go to that family event or to your friend's BBQ this time, there is next time. So you didn't mow the lawn today, there is tomorrow. Just let that feeling that you must be productive every moment slide. That for some odd reason you ought to feel guilty for not doing something other than taking care of yourself.